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What is Domestic Abuse

  Domestic violence is prevalent in every community, and affects all people regardless of age, socio-economic status, sexual orientation, gender, race, religion, or nationality. Physical violence is often accompanied by emotionally abusive and controlling behavior as part of a much larger, systematic pattern of dominance and control. Domestic violence can result in physical injury, psychological trauma, and even death. Domestic violence, also known as domestic abuse, can come in many different forms. At the root of all forms of abuse, however, is the need for the abusive partner to keep power and control over the victim. We hope that reading about all of the different forms of abuse will help you to recognize some abusive behaviors that you may not have considered to be abusive.  Domestic violence is about one person getting and keeping power and control over another person in an intimate relationship. It is a pattern of behavior in which one intimate partner uses physical violence, co
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How Narcissists Use Confusion to Convince Other People

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Being a narcissist is harder than it may seem. Most people understand that no one is perfect and that everyone makes mistakes, and this knowledge can be comforting whenever we make an error. However, a narcissist can’t accept that they’ve made a mistake or that something is their fault since that would be admitting that they aren’t perfect. To avoid this, narcissists will go through spectacular mental gymnastics to blame someone else for any situation.

Their goal is to reprogram your mind

Narcissists use love-bombing to keep you captured and intrigued. They’ll win you over with their charm and wit and cognitive empathy. They’ll make you feel special in ways you’ve never felt before (all through the use of cognitive empathy, of course). But the narcissist never wants you to think for yourself. If you start doing that, they’ll react. They’ll attempt to break you down and sabotage you.  They’ll make you doubt your capabilities and question your motives. Their goal is to reprogram your mind- and they’ll do whatever they can to maintain their preferred status quo.

A Narcissist is basically living in their terrible two's

Narcissists can resemble toddlers, in that they tend to be extremely sore losers. They struggle to accept losing, and they also tend to lash out when it happens. A few scenarios may occur: They repeatedly proclaim the person in charge (boss/referee) was incompetent They attempt to defame or humiliate the winner They pretend they didn’t care about winning They insist that they “let the other person” take the spotlight They refuse to accept that they lost and awkwardly act as if they’re the actual winner (you may have experienced this by hearing, after you’ve left them, that they’ve told everyone  they’re the one who left you! )

What is emotional manipulation?

Emotional manipulation occurs when a manipulative person seeks power over someone else and employs dishonest or exploitive strategies to gain it. Unlike people in healthy relationships, which demonstrate reciprocity and cooperation, an emotional manipulator looks to use, control, or even victimize someone else. Emotional manipulation can have many different contexts and styles, but here are some signs of manipulation... Recognize  the signs, know when they are trying to manipulate you, and stand your ground.