Silent Rights

Victims of narcissistic abuse are subjected to mental conditioning that can make them feel like they’re losing their grip on reality. Gaslighting is a common tactic used by narcissistic abusers to confuse their partners or other people in their inner circle. Gaslighting occurs when someone tries to confuse another party about a situation by insisting the other person is mistaken about the facts. This trick can be used for something simple, such as who was the last person to use an object that’s now missing. It can also be used to confuse a partner about major financial or relationship issues. Narcissistic members of a relationship may use gaslighting to convince their partner that there was less money in the bank account than they thought, or that clear signs of an affair aren’t what they seem. Convincing someone to ignore the truth isn’t easy, they know that as long as they’re consistent with their answers that their target will begin to believe it, too, even if their information is c

Being a narcissist is harder than it may seem. Most people understand that no one is perfect and that everyone makes mistakes, and this knowledge can be comforting whenever we make an error. However, a narcissist can’t accept that they’ve made a mistake or that something is their fault since that would be admitting that they aren’t perfect. To avoid this, narcissists will go through spectacular mental gymnastics to blame someone else for any situation.

Narcissists use love-bombing to keep you captured and intrigued. They’ll win you over with their charm and wit and cognitive empathy. They’ll make you feel special in ways you’ve never felt before (all through the use of cognitive empathy, of course). But the narcissist never wants you to think for yourself. If you start doing that, they’ll react. They’ll attempt to break you down and sabotage you.  They’ll make you doubt your capabilities and question your motives. Their goal is to reprogram your mind- and they’ll do whatever they can to maintain their preferred status quo.

Narcissists can resemble toddlers, in that they tend to be extremely sore losers. They struggle to accept losing, and they also tend to lash out when it happens. A few scenarios may occur: They repeatedly proclaim the person in charge (boss/referee) was incompetent They attempt to defame or humiliate the winner They pretend they didn’t care about winning They insist that they “let the other person” take the spotlight They refuse to accept that they lost and awkwardly act as if they’re the actual winner (you may have experienced this by hearing, after you’ve left them, that they’ve told everyone  they’re the one who left you! )

Emotional manipulation occurs when a manipulative person seeks power over someone else and employs dishonest or exploitive strategies to gain it. Unlike people in healthy relationships, which demonstrate reciprocity and cooperation, an emotional manipulator looks to use, control, or even victimize someone else. Emotional manipulation can have many different contexts and styles, but here are some signs of manipulation... Recognize  the signs, know when they are trying to manipulate you, and stand your ground.

Future faking is when a person lies or promises something about your possible future in order to get what they want in the present. It could be as basic as promising that they will call you later, and then never calling. Or it can be promising to go on a vacation with you, and then never taking any steps to make that happen. Or even promising to marry you, carry you off into the sunset, and living happily ever after, all in order to make you complacent and to control you in the present. In the hands of a skilled manipulator, future faking preys on your dreams and goals in order to fabulate a possible future so that they can string you along in the now. These promises are destined to be broken, and can be seen as a form of overpromising and under delivering. Essentially, the manipulator will take very little action, if any, towards keeping their promises. Instead, they will keep promising and using other forms of coercive control, passive and active abuse, until you find yourself in

N arcissists are usually highly sensitive and emotional individuals. Naturally, any relationship with a narcissist will involve displaying strong emotions. Not just the partner but you too. It is more important to channel those emotions than reacting to them. Manipulation is a common strategy that narcissists usually resort to. Keep an eye out for that. Encourage dialogue and try to open your partner up about feelings as much as possible. Never react when he/she is at the peak of their behaviour, inform them you will only speak once everything has calmed down.

When we finally get the courage to leave a toxic relationship, we often struggle to acclimate to our new reality. You believe a different life might be possible, but how do you let go of all you've been through? You worry that there is just too much effort involved in rebuilding and you don't think you have it in you to do the work. You find yourself asking, “how am I supposed to take the next steps and start a new life when I can't get over the confusion and doubt…?” Just like the narcissist slowly chipped away at your identity, healing your self-image and restoring your life is a process. Recovery and healing is not easy but it is vital. You deserve happiness. Let us help you heal

  Almost always a big ego Firstly, it should be noted that many of us have some narcissistic tendencies, to a certain degree, and the amount of people who suffer from a clinically diagnosed case of narcissistic personality disorder is quite low. However, narcissistic traits are still quite damaging to a relationship and one of the classic pointers is when someone has what could be described as an inflated ego. Invariably, an inflated ego often points to deep-rooted feelings of insecurity, but if your partner seems to constantly need praise and attention that is a classic sign of narcissism. Emotionally detached Another frustrating personality trait is when your partner seems to be lacking in any sort of empathy. Often, they are so obsessed with their own inner-focus a narcissistic person can display an alarming lack of empathy. Defensive attitude A narcissist will often display a noticeable inability to take any sort of criticism onboard however well-intentioned it is. A typical reacti

The warning signs that a narcissist is being unfaithful can be quite blatant, others are less obvious but ALL are very painful. They may go dark for a few days, they may be spending a lot of time away, which could signal the narcissist has another source of supply that they're romancing behind your back. Or, maybe you have found clear evidence of another lover, and have felt that crushing blow to your self-esteem, a blow so hard and devastating that you thought you might never get up off the ground again. And if you have tried to end things, you may have been utterly shocked at the narcissist’s sudden, new relationship. While you barely begin to process your breakup, the narcissist moves on without skipping a beat, declaring the new person the love of their LIFE.

Narcissism is extreme self-involvement to the degree that it makes a person ignore the needs of those around them. While everyone may show occasional narcissistic behavior, true narcissists frequently disregard others or their feelings. They also do not understand the effect that their behavior has on other people. #vain #selfabsorbed #selfobsessed #conceited #selfcentred #selfregarding #egotistical #egocentric #egomaniac #narcissist #narcissistic

Narcissists use manipulation tactics to get what they want, and monkey branching is one method they use to maintain their narcissistic supply. They  prepare themselves for an optimal exit strategy in case the relationship fails. They never completely surrender to their partner. Subsequently, they cannot fully settle or commit, and no matter how ‘in love’ they might claim to be. They have their eyes peeled on a new person or relationship even when they appear to be committed to you

The narcissist's controlling, crazy-making behaviors have left you feeling afraid, depressed, and alone. Loss of identity is unavoidable after being in an emotionally abusive and manipulative relationship.   The narcissist has several resources in their toolbox for achieving this goal:   Trauma Bonding:   Rollercoasters of chronic fighting (you’re always the bad guy, of course) and fleeting moments of artificial compassion to solidify a bond based on trauma. Other than responsibilities like children and bills, these brief moments of seeming love are what keep you from leaving. Cognitive Empathy:   Objectively empathizing with you for the sole purpose of manipulating your thoughts. This empathy without compassion is a prerequisite for torture.   Imposing Guilt and Worthlessness:   When you attempt to state an opinion – even on benign things like clothing – you’re wrong. And even if you’re not wrong, the mere act of having an opinion will offend the narcissist.

From the very first day the narcissist meets you – during the love-bombing phase – what they’re trying to do is replace your thoughts with their negative and toxic programming. They spend an inordinate amount of time and energy love bombing you. This could be in the form of dinners and gifts and really, let’s face it, their time and energy. All those late-night phone calls, the texting, and the damage control… Unbeknownst to you, even while they’re love bombing you, most narcissists have someone else that they’re stringing along or perhaps even grooming alongside you. This takes a lot of energy. At any rate, during the love-bombing phase, the narcissist makes you feel like you have never felt before in your life. By all accounts, this is often when people feel self-actualized for the first time in their lives. During love bombing, you feel the most self-actualized. All your unique traits, your dreams, your interests, your spirituality…the narcissist makes you feel like they are the

Sometimes, when an emotionally manipulative person seeks to cause drama, you might want to offer a response commensurate with their behavior. Except, you should really consider doing the opposite: Namely, acting like there’s nothing you can offer in terms of engagement, and remain as placid as a lake on a wind-free afternoon. Genuinely manipulative people, and likewise those with narcissistic personality disorder, drive conflict and chaos. In order to deprive their combative fire of its true life force, consider “gray rocking” them, which, yes, involves acting as if you were as unremarkable as a stone. What is gray rocking? Gray rocking involves making oneself as uninteresting as possible in an effort to disengage from potential conflict. This isn’t quite the same as giving the cold shoulder, though it might seem that way at a glance. Emotional stonewalling, after all, is something that’s completely unwarranted when it occurs, while the gray rock method is almost a form of surv

Any intentional act causing injury or trauma to another person or animal by way of bodily contact. Physical abuse can involve any of the following violent acts: scratching or biting pushing or shoving slapping or punching kicking choking or strangling throwing things force feeding or denying you food using weapons or objects that could hurt you physically restraining you (such as pinning you against a wall, floor, bed, etc.) reckless driving other acts that hurt or threaten you. Other terms sometimes used include physical assault or physical violence, and may also include sexual abuse.   #domesticabuse #physicalabuse #physicalassault #physicalviolence

Abusers and  Narcissists are obsessed with you and monitor all your activities, also known as STALKING! A good working definition of stalking is unwanted or obsessive attention by an individual toward another person through the carrying out of behaviors intended to frighten, distress the victim, and/or instill a sense of guilt and hopelessness in the victim (which often leads to learned helplessness). Stalking behaviors are related to harassment and intimidation and usually include following the victim (in person) and monitoring them. “Stalking is a form of mental assault, in which the perpetrator repeatedly, unwantedly, and disruptively breaks into the life-world of the victim, with whom they have a current relationship or a recent one. Moreover, the separated acts that make up the intrusion cannot by themselves cause the mental abuse, but do taken together (cumulative effect).” Stalking behaviors carried out by narcissists can include: Constant texts, emails, and phone calls Fr