Narcissism is extreme self-involvement to the degree that it makes a
person ignore the needs of those around them. While everyone may show
occasional narcissistic behavior, true narcissists frequently disregard others
or their feelings. They also do not understand the effect that their behavior
has on other people.
The narcissist's controlling, crazy-making behaviors have left you feeling afraid, depressed, and alone. Loss of identity is unavoidable after being in an emotionally abusive and manipulative relationship. The narcissist has several resources in their toolbox for achieving this goal: Trauma Bonding: Rollercoasters of chronic fighting (you’re always the bad guy, of course) and fleeting moments of artificial compassion to solidify a bond based on trauma. Other than responsibilities like children and bills, these brief moments of seeming love are what keep you from leaving. Cognitive Empathy: Objectively empathizing with you for the sole purpose of manipulating your thoughts. This empathy without compassion is a prerequisite for torture. Imposing Guilt and Worthlessness: When you attempt to state an opinion – even on benign things like clothing – you’re wrong. And even if you’re not wrong, the mere act of having an opinion wil...
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