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Narcissists and Abusers stalk you

Abusers and Narcissists are obsessed with you and monitor all your activities, also known as STALKING!

A good working definition of stalking is unwanted or obsessive attention by an individual toward another person through the carrying out of behaviors intended to frighten, distress the victim, and/or instill a sense of guilt and hopelessness in the victim (which often leads to learned helplessness). Stalking behaviors are related to harassment and intimidation and usually include following the victim (in person) and monitoring them.

“Stalking is a form of mental assault, in which the perpetrator repeatedly, unwantedly, and disruptively breaks into the life-world of the victim, with whom they have a current relationship or a recent one. Moreover, the separated acts that make up the intrusion cannot by themselves cause the mental abuse, but do taken together (cumulative effect).”

Stalking behaviors carried out by narcissists can include:

  • Constant texts, emails, and phone calls
  • Frequent, unwanted deliveries of gifts, cards, and flowers
  • Constantly driving by your home
  • Showing up at your place of employment or favorite hangout
  • Spreading rumors or publishing personal information about you on social media
  • Cyberstalking
  • Using social media to follow and friend your social media followers and friends in order to keep an eye on you
  • Installing spyware on your computer or cell phone
  • Finding out about you by using public records or online search services, hiring investigators, going through your garbage, or contacting friends, family, neighbors, or co-workers
  • Using technology, like hidden cameras or global positioning systems (GPS), to track where you go
  • Threatening to hurt you, your family, friends, or pets

Stalking is often mistaken as hoovering in that once a source of supply expresses a desire to end the relationship, the narcissist refuses to give up their power by forcing themselves into the victim’s world through harassing, following, and monitoring.

Stalking is a common behavior of narcissist!

They are obsessed with you! 

Stalking is Domestic Abuse and you can apply for a Protection Order! 

#domesticabuse #stalking

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